Sunday, 25 September 2016

Insecurity is the problem


Something that never ceases to bug me is when people, more often than not those don't even know their target, decide to belittle and taunt others, constantly pointing out what they, in their ill formed brainwashed by the media mind, have decided are flaws.

You cannot have debate with these people, you might as well just walk away, because they cannot do anything other than parrot the things they have been programmed to by the media.

If you are one of those insecure sanctimonious fools who feels the need to constantly put others down, to feel better about yourself and your miserable life, then I have news for you - there is no "normal" you might think you are normal, but who has dictated your idea of normal to you? The media? Yes no doubt, and since when does the media have a monopoly on what is or isn't normal?

There of course are those who point to supposed studies done by highly paid scientists, to provide the results they are supposed to, in what way does that make it fact? It doesn't. And when the media decides they no longer want those results, they will simply come up with another study to prove something else.

Then weak willed people will follow and think that is now normal and anyone who doesn't fit into that is a freak, or unhealthy, or a bad person. That is bullshit! Anyone with a brain can see that, so what does it say about those who try to force people to change and fit it?

Telling someone you don't even know that they are ugly, obese, too short, too tall, too skinny, unhealthy or whatever, is not helping them, so who does it help? The media of course, or should I say those who control the media, you know the ones who have products to sell, products that the weak willed need to fit in - you smell, no problem they have all kinds of chemical crap for you to spray all over yourself - you are too fat, no problem they have a diet plan or diet pills for you to take - you are too short, no problem they have these overpriced designer high heeled shoes that will cripple you - you are too ugly, no problem we have this chemical gunk for you to smear all over your face.... It goes on an on.

And don't you dare pretend you are insulting someone for their own good, you don't know the person and you certainly don't care about them, so stop pretending you do as an excuse to make remarks about their appearance. People only insult the appearance of others when they are insecure themselves. Your actions are no better than those of a school yard bully.

Next time you feel the need to tell someone they are too this or that, stop yourself and think about what you are doing and why.

I will also add that this is not a freedom of speech issue, it is about being a decent human being who shouldn't feel the need to make nasty comments about someone else's appearance, for no other reason than your own self hate and insecurity. 


Sunday, 18 September 2016

A wet dream!


I have a dream, you could call it a wet dream. I have arthritis, I've had it since I was a teenager and the only time I am truly pain free and able to move about, freely, is when I am in water... I love being in water, and I love swimming. When I am in the water I am truly free. I finally got my own swimming pool, which I can only really use 6 months of the year, but at least I have those months each year. I do 100 lengths each day, and if it wasn't for time constraints I could do many more, I never get tired when in the water.

Recently I went to visit a friend who lives in a city, I don't like cities and this is the reason. You cannot just stop and park outside somewhere when you are in a city, you have to walk a long way and when every step is painful, it makes it very hard. So I never enjoy my visits to cities and end up coming away realising just how much my condition affects things. I avoid cities.

Then I had a thought - imagine that in towns and cities there were swim lanes? Just imagine it!! There could be stops along the way with changing rooms and showers, and all your clothes and belongings could be packed in a waterproof bag and pulled along with you as you swim. They could have dome covers over them to keep them clean and so you could swim in any weather. It would be so amazing. Some bars and shops could even have swim in areas.

Something like this would cost a fortune, so I doubt anyone will actually do this, but I will certainly be visiting a city like that in my dreams often.


Monday, 25 July 2016

Judeo-Christian Culture Is Better Than Any Other


It seems that everywhere I go on the internet these days Milo Yiannopoulos and his ill informed opinions are shoved down my throat.

What things are wrong with Milo Yiannopoulos? 

Well where do I start - he hates himself. He says he is gay, but wishes he wasn't because that would mean he was a better person and within the same breath he says that gay men have higher IQs! Well he obviously doesn't for coming out with complete nonsense like that.

He says lesbians don't exist, he quotes absolutely ridiculous research to try to prove his point. I guess he thinks that no human being could possibly not find men attractive. A woman has no need to pretend she doesn't fancy men, just like a gay male has no need to pretend he doesn't fancy women, it is what it is and no research done on a handful of women will change what women do or don't find attractive.

He says that the only good cultures in the world are the result of Judeo-Christian religions. PLEASE!! Just more proof of his hatred of women and himself. Judeo-Christian religions hate women just as much, if not more, than Islam does, they also hate gays! How soon one forgets the horrors of the inquisition - all those women burnt to death for daring to have opinions, or trying to heal someone, for having red hair, for having a birth mark, for being too pretty, for not letting a man shag her, or basically doing anything that a man didn't like!

How quickly people forget what living under these backwards religions is like. Maybe Milo and others who support Judeo-Christian religions should be forced to wear a Scold's Bridle, or be tied up and ducked into water until dead or burnt at the stake and see how they like putting up with how it was for women under Judeo-Christian culture!

If it wasn't for the enlightenment period where people started to use their brains we would still be in those dark ages of Judeo-Christian religion. 

Britain First, the political party, keep pushing the UK as a Christian country too. What is Stonehedge and all other ancient monuments? Scotch Mist? Maybe he thinks they were built by the Roman invaders who brought their hate filled religion to the shores of the UK? Nope, sorry, they were built by people who didn't worship Gods, they venerated nature and the natural cycles of the Earth and the planets that influence us here; they venerated their ancestors, as they knew that is where they came from and who they are. They knew they were not created by some imaginary sky daddy god, they came from their Mother and all life on Earth is nourished by the Great Mother Earth.

Milo Yiannopoulos is just an insecure, self hating, whingy, narcissistic, Catholic (yep, unlike most Catholics he admits he is gay and hates women), attention seeking little boy. So no need to watch his videos or read his rubbish.

Hoping he will just fade into the background and learn to shut up, doubtful, but we can but hope.

Hoping all religions will just fade into the background and learn to shut up too, but that is also doubtful, too many insecure idiots like Milo support them.




Friday, 22 July 2016

Living with misophonia


Misophonia is no joke, it can be hell for those who suffer from it, and the worse thing about it is the people who you care about most, like family, friends and your partner, that are the ones who are doing the things that set the misophonia off. If you tell them that their slurping, chomping, sniffing, insistent throat clearing, tapping, scrapping and bashing of dishes while eating, other clicks and mouth noises drive you nuts, they either get angry at you or think it is funny to do it all the more. Or it is like they think it has gone away and that the next time they are near you and start heavy breathing into their glass and gulping down their drink, that it won't bother you this time. Well it does.

I am in no way pretending I don't have habits that are annoying to other people, but if I knew I was doing something that was making someone feel physically sick, then I wouldn't want to cause that in someone, so I would avoid doing it in front of them.

The Symptoms of Misophonia
The literal definition of misophonia is hatred of sound but a person with misophonia does not simply hate all sound. People with misophonia have specific symptoms and are sensitive to only certain sounds. Any sound can become a problem to a person with misophonia but most are some kind of background noise. 
Exposure to one of these sounds elicits an immediate negative emotional response from a person with sound sensitivities. The response can range from moderate discomfort to acute annoyance or go all the way up to full-fledged rage and panic. Fight or flight reactions can occur. While experiencing this a person may become agitated, defensive or offensive, distance themselves from the trigger or possibly act out in some manner.
The people closest to the person with misophonia often elicit the sounds that affect them. This can make personal relationships difficult and stressful. An environment known to include these sounds can limit social activities when a person with misophonia anticipates a problem. In some cases, a person with misophonia can become socially isolated and pull back from family and friends in an attempt to reduce the associated physical symptoms that they experience (tension, headache, tightening jaw, stomach issues, etc.).

I know myself from my childhood if anyone picks up a banana I am out of there, the eating of bananas make some of the worse chomping sounds. People who lick their fingers and make slurping noises as they do drive me mad. I tense up, hutch my shoulders and try my best to ignore it and hope that goes away, if it doesn't go away quickly I am likely to get a headache and neck pain, which often leads to a migraine. It also causes my already delicate stomach to do somersaults and can start up IBS.

When exposed to one of these sounds, some people feel the need to mimic what they hear. Mimicry is an automatic, non-conscious social phenomenon. It can have a calming effect and make the situation feel better to the person experiencing stress. There is a biological basis for how mimicry lessens adverse reactions to triggers because it evokes compassion and empathy.

Actually I think people will get angry at me if I do this, and at times I can't help doing exaggerated sounds like they are making. To me it is showing them how bad it sounds, but they don't understand why it bugs me so much.

People with misophonia can be reluctant to share their symptoms with others because sharing can have several different outcomes. Reports from sufferers indicate that sometimes people purposefully mock them with offending noises (at times exaggerating them as well). Also, sometimes family, friends, co-workers and others minimise the problem. A person with misophonia is sometimes told to “just try to ignore that sound,” or “you’re just being difficult,” or “don’t let it get to you.” Suggestions like these are not helpful. And people with misophonia often say that if they could simply choose to ignore the sounds, they would have made that choice a long time ago.
On the other hand, there are those who are supportive and offer encouragement. Anyone with a problem or difficulty appreciates a helping hand now and then. If you know someone with misophonia and want to help them cope with the disorder, all you need to do is ask what you can do to help.

As I talked about in the Elven Ears article I wrote, I already have very sensitive hearing, which is why I like there to be no sound at all most of the time and it is great when I can control that. But sometimes I can't.

If you know someone who suffers from misphonia, please don't assume they are just being awkward or offensive to you.



Sources

My own experience and misophonia.com

Tuesday, 19 July 2016

Psychopaths Don't Need An Excuse To Try To Ruin You


Don't be fooled into thinking that if someone has become a victim of a psychopath that they some how deserved it - no smoke without fire - is what people who have never encountered a psychopath will say! The only thing you need to do to become the victim of a psychopath is to encounter one. If you insult them in some way, YOU WILL become a victim of them. It can be something as simple as rejecting their sexual advances, ignoring an email from them, wearing the wrong colour top (yes psychopaths often identify with a certain political party, sports team, gang, or even religion). It doesn't matter if you do or don't do anything, if they want to ruin you they will, with or without a reason. Or should I say try to ruin you?

Recently I was talking to a man online, he was looking at my blog and then because he knew my name he decided to snoop on me and found those rip off reports that that psychopathic criminal and gang member Dean Branch made about me. I just showed him the links to rip off reports about him, as he is a known criminal and tried to blackmail me, saying he would ruin me if he didn't get his way.

So he put the reports up about me, saying a load of bullshit and what does this man online say to me: "He seems crazy enough, but there's no smoke without fire..." Actually there is, as I say above a psychopath doesn't need an excuse to try to ruin you, but Dean had one, I was ignoring him and hoping he would go away. He posted all over FB and everywhere, trying to get me to talk to him, when I didn't he said he was going to ruin me. Sounds familiar? Anyone who knows all the crap I went through when I became a female Bishop will know another psychopath also threatened to ruin me, because he didn't like me being a Bishop. You see, this is what psychopaths do, they try to ruin people when they don't get their own way.

I have known 5 psychopaths in my life, these are just two of them.

Psychopaths don't need an excuse to do the things they do, they do them because they can.

As for the man online who assumed the worse of me, lucky escape for me. If someone is so stupid that they believe lies up on the internet about someone who is in the public eye, they will believe anything. Everyone gets lies told about when they are in the public eye and they all get bad publicity. Some people believe it and others aren't so easily fooled.



Thursday, 26 May 2016

Is one child enough?


With the mounting problems overpopulation is bringing to the planet, many morally conscious couples will question whether they should have children at all, or maybe just one is enough? This article is about the problems and advantages of having just one child.

There are lots of advantages for having just one child. The child will not have to share the love and attention of the parents with other siblings, the parents will have more money for the child's upbringing and education than if they have several children. The first born child is always the golden child, the one who gets most of the attention and the best of everything, where as second children just get hand me downs and a life full of being an after thought and second best, this is avoided when you only have one child. There will be no favouritism in a one child family and no sibling rivalry.

Studies have shown that often first born children are not only more intelligent and healthier than second born children, they also do better in life than their younger siblings. If you grow up feeling loved and wanted, you are much more likely to develop strong and healthy, those who are brought up feeling unloved often lag behind in their mental development, and have the tendency to have physical and mental health problems. Of course there are always exceptions, but in general this has been found to be true.

Parents might think they are treating all their children equally, even if they do secretly admit to themselves that they have a favourite. But children are very perceptive and the second born will know they are not as important and often won't try at school. They grow up with a sense of not being good enough, they are doomed to be the black sheep of the family and in their teenage years will often play up on this, usually as a cry for help and attention seeking. They don't feel loved and will probably suffer throughout life with depression and many failed relationships, deep down they don't feel like they deserve to be loved. If given the choice would you be a first or second born?

The bad side of having one child - the spoilt brat syndrome - oh yes, we all know someone with this. The child who has been mollycoddled by their parents so much that they have a sense of entitlement that continues on into their adulthood. It can lead to terrible mood swings when they don't get their own way. Children with no siblings can get too much attention from their doting parents and end up never wanting to leave home, the big bad world is scary to them because they have lived a life of being wrapped in cotton wool. And although the only child might excel at school and in academia, they rarely want to leave their home town to pursue their career to the full. They need an extra push to do things. Sometimes the only child might meet and marry someone who provides this push they need and with this they can achieve great things.

As the only child is a first born they usually have excellent health, however they have a tendency to be hypochondriacs. This is because it gets them even more attention and affection from their doting parents.

Having siblings can be positive in many ways too, especially if they are of a similar age. They can look out for each other, protect each other and learn to share their toys. These are all positives to having more than one child.

So there is good side to having one child and a bad side, although the bad sides are things that can be corrected easily with better parenting skills. The child also needn't miss out having something similar to a sibling if you have friends with similar aged children.

Do you think the bad side of having just one child outweighs the good?



Friday, 13 May 2016

The Scapegoat


I am often a scapegoat for the unbalanced and unstable amongst us. This world is full to the top with unbalanced, unstable people who secretly hate themselves, but show outwardly a saint-like appearance, a mask.

This is something I have wrote about often, everyone's need to demonise those who are happy, balanced and somewhat outspoken and blunt.... How dare someone say something that the insecure are secretly thinking themselves, but dare not say publicly! How dare they have the confidence to not care what other people think about them! When the whingy little victim who is offended and triggered by anything and everything is so scared to offend anyone.

A scapegoat is very welcome to these unbalanced people, what a relief it is for them to get angry and hateful towards a target other than themselves for a change.

They cry when they are alone, cry for the sake of crying, cry because they are still stuck in victimhood and childhood, they are scared to grow up and face the facts.

Everyone does have a dark side, and think things that they are scared to admit to when they are insecure. Acting like the sun shines out of your arse and then attacking anyone who dares to say those things is scapegoating. It is using the other person as mirror, you see yourself and your dark side in them, you see them saying the things you have thought yourself and you don't like those thoughts, usually because of peer pressure, brought on through programming by the mainstream media. This is the true meaning of the phrase "I am a mirror" I have said this to people when they attack me for no other reason than them being offended by something I have said, another name for it is "projection".

The phrase "I am a mirror" is also used incorrectly by the new age movement, turning words against us yet again. I have talked about this in another article here. To those people it means they will reflect back any negative thoughts that others say, like a shield that helps them bury their head in the sand and stop them having to face things. All this does is mean they ignore other people who talk sense to them, ignore their own dark side and keep it all to themselves, they won't admit to their bad thoughts or anything negative at all in the world. They feel they don't need to work on themselves spiritually, because they are already enlightened - naive enlightenment. Then when a scapegoat appears they use all that negative energy they have been denying and keeping to themselves, and they spew hate, they swear, they call you horrible nasty things and all that bitterness and resentment, of themselves, comes flowing out.

I know why people attack me and continue to deny their own faults, and their own dark side. But at times it can be hard for me to cope with, I am not invincible, I do have feelings too! If it is someone I don't know I will often just block them and move on, I realise they are not ready to face their fears and work on themselves, and anything I say to them will either fall on deaf ears or be purposely misconstrued and used to further their attack on me. It is better to just walk away and let them think I am pure evil, ignorant or stupid, or whatever insult they can think of to push on me, then they don't have to look within and deal with their own daemons.

Yeah I am often a scapegoat, but it isn't like I don't know why.

Also see this, this and this.